no new mega? oh well. posting here
wow! having a purse/bag to hold all your stuff in is really nice! not only is it super affirming but it's also really convenient! look at all my stuff in here! i can carry so much on me now! wow!
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no new mega? oh well. posting here
wow! having a purse/bag to hold all your stuff in is really nice! not only is it super affirming but it's also really convenient! look at all my stuff in here! i can carry so much on me now! wow!
need a big button that says "please flirt aggressively. i am very dumb and can't do it back"
>i am very dumb and can't do it back
Man, as a recent immigrant and trans person, dealing with Britain's healthcare system is possibly the most exhausting and degrading thing I've ever dealt with.
:yea: i gave up on it years ago and have just stuck to diy
I'm going to crucify the GP
entirely understandable, years ago i spent quite a lot of money going private through gendergp just for my gp to refuse to honour the prescription. i try and avoid interacting with the nhs as much as possible now
And yeah it's so fucking expensive to go private. Main reason I haven't.
Jesus, they can do that?
there was probably a way i could have challenged it at the time, but i just said fuck it and went diy
Transes, what's going on with me?
spoiler
What's with this whole imposter thing?
Not only do I want to be a woman, but I want to want to be a woman. So why can't I believe it?
My wife and friends are all very supportive. I get she/hers. They use my new name. I'm dressing like a woman. Going through transition things like hair removal and voice training, but there's something holding me back.
I don't even know what it is. I can't even point to it. I'm clearly not cis (and don't want to be), and if I looked at another trans woman and saw her doing all the things I'm doing, I'd be like, "oh, that's a woman." But me? Idk, feels like something STILL hasn't clicked.
Like, I'm happy. I'm happier than I've been in a long time, but I'm afraid I'll wake up one day and be like, "well all that was weird. Wonder what I was thinking."
I ask if I'm doing this for the wrong reasons. What even are the wrong reasons? Lmao.
I've seen a thousand other trans people with this same thought, and now I'm going through it. Ugh, exhausting!
(Gonna keep transitioning tho. I won't be stopped!)
Like, I'm happy. I'm happier than I've been in a long time, but I'm afraid I'll wake up one day and be like, "well all that was weird. Wonder what I was thinking."
tbh even if this were to happen, as unlikely as it sounds, you can just stop doing it. at worst it was a time of experimenting with gender and that's cool. I do think we know ourselves better than others though, so if you don't think your cis and feel happy transitioning, it sounds like a good direction your moving in (whenever you end up)
they should invent a shower where the second you step out you're warm and dry
bad to middling opinion. i treat the first second of cold out of the shower as my reminder of what the world is really like
Sonic showers from star trek vibrating my ass cheeks
i hate having wet hair
More names from wife, hot off the press
Stalinist Starlet 😁
Trotskyist Tigress 🤮
I have become puppygirl
Many such cases!
truly we live in pup/acc times
chronic illness, doctors
went to urgent care today about my current fatigue crash and damn, i wish the nurse practitioner who saw me could be my gp. she validated my chronic fatigue symptoms, she actually suggested it may be me/cfs (!!!), and she told me that the previous gps i saw who wrote off my chronic illness as just depression were wrong and that i should keep advocating for myself. she actually said that i should find a new pcp because my old pcp was not taking my issues seriously. i have never felt so validated from a medical professional before. i honestly want to cry just thinking about it.
That is such a fucking win!
I HATE when doctors don't believe what I'm telling them. I just avoid wasting my time going to them these days.
So glad you found someone who actually listens!
found a friend's reddit account and boy have i lost a tremendous deal of respect for them as a person
Many such cases
POV: trans reddit
i literally have no idea what i would do without hexbear you guys are the only thing that keeps me sane
trans reddit is a hellscape
those subreddits are insufferable for any political topic
Seeing the cis lads cry about being "discriminated against" because of "my gender which I didn't choose" PICK A BETTER ONE LOSER
Finally getting some use out of all my cute sweaters
Yapping, 'boymode' theorising
We say that the cis are easy to fool, unobservant and to an extent that's absolutely true. But I also think that it's more about cisnormativity: not only are the cis not keyed to think "this person is changing their gender" of course, but also as a result they want to believe that the gender is the same. So even if their kid has inexplicably grown something chesty under that hoodie, why investigate when they are reassured by said kid that they're Still Totally A "Boy" For Sure, y'know? They have no vested interest in anything outside the gender status quo, usually, I think.
Yeah I think a lot of cis people want to believe in cisnormativity and transvestigating people by trying to identify boy/girl moders is ironically also destabilizing to cisnormativity in much the same way that trans people are. It’s blurring the gender binary by taking someone who has traits associated with the “opposite sex” and explicitly gendering them to cast the accused as something other than a cis man/woman. This has a similar effect to being openly trans in that it creates a gender transgression from the accused’s body. And so most cis people just don’t mention, or even think about it.
The other part of this is that, despite what “edgy” jokes may have you believe, cis people care deeply about misgendering and understand it to be very insulting — at least to cis people that is. And accusing a cis person of boy/girl moding is essentially misgendering them and so is usually avoided for the sake of politeness
Been doing voice training. Reply here, and I will use your comments to voice train.
You can be assured whatever you write, I will say out loud at least once in my cartoon fem voice.
Be nice~
Edit: HELP I'm being feminized by BMF (Binding Male Feminization) posts
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I do self-criticism constantly because I’m trapped in a Maoist cult where comrades (white terrorists) criticize me mercilessly for having a fascist credit card (VISA Silver Signature Rewards)
They won’t let me order vegan pizza anymore because the phone is fascist and “summoning my pizza slaves with a bourgeois app” is “bad vibes”
voice training
memorizing that one part of Jeremiah Wright's "God Damn America" sermon
(Donkey Kong Country intro music)
Its in the bible
TRAINS MEGATHREAD
>"trans/queer horror recs?" thread
>looks inside
>authors are a bunch of cissies
(sees a fat squirrel blissfully eating a big ass triple peanut while standing on his hind legs and pissing at the same time without a care in the world)
^Hell^ ^yeah^ ^dude,^ ^respect^
I work in a queer culturally-specific organization and it makes shit so much worse when we do harm. I'm having a bit of a crisis about it all.
cw sexual harassment, familial abuse, racism
I reported a client for repeated sexual harassment, and rather than ending services, my coworkers convinced his homeless sister to sign a lease where she pays his rent while continuing to live homeless herself. We had known about and documented several instances of abusive behavior before this, but they still went through with it.
Then we had a staff meeting where my boss said we could "speak freely and without consequences" and a coworker reference "whistling at white women" when I said I didn't appreciate being called "babygirl" and having my body commented on during every case meeting. Apparently I just can't take a compliment.
There's a lot that happens here that's like "lmao I'm sure glad right wing media doesn't know what's going on in here", but this actually shook me, and the accusations had me self-critting all weekend about my response to being sexually harassed.
Went inside after working outside, so I was a little sweaty. Was talking to my brother when I decided I needed to air out some of the sweat and just pulled my shirt up just over chest. Then realized what that looked like. Oops. My brother's reaction was just to comment "boobs do get hot".
Ordering a couple flags, when theygeyt here do I fix the creeses or let them stay
I keep waking up normally but quickly sliding into the most foul fucking moods ever. Maybe it's just hormonal but Idk, should I stop taking my gabapentin or something?