I have one good thing to say about the incel communities. When I was at my most lonely and a virgin, I would often read through the /r/incel subreddit and think "Wow at least I'm not as sad as these losers."
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You had me in the first half lol.
Women get rejected too, but no one cares. Hell, no one even believes it because that sexism runs deep.
They don't even know that the word incel was literally coined to describe a woman's experience. It's aggravating
Preeeeaaachhhhhhh!!!
When I'd go on dates, 3 different people would know and we'd check in regularly. That shouldn't be normal but men made it necessary.
I swear there are mascs on this site who got badly rejected by a girl they were obsessed with in high school or something and absolutely refuse to let it go, like that experience is one of the core filters they view the entire world through. Idk how else to explain the sheer number of mascs here who explicitly empathize with incels to the point of telling femmes and enbys that ackshully they're the problem for wanting to feel safe
Unlocking the thread now that more mod eyes are on it, any more he/hims who want to come in here and post paragraphs defending violents misogynists will be copping a ban. Do y'all believe there's a misogyny problem on Hexbear yet?
Thanks everyone on the admin team, and sorry I started going through it and realized it was way over my little baby mod head to handle on my own
Oh but on top of that they get to hear from incels (and the media) about how easy it is for women to date. But again, no one gives a shit, because they're women, so who cares.
I had one who came onto my tumblr the other day liking a post of mine and when I checked him out he was complaining about how women are never lonely and can have companionship at the drop of a hat. So I blocked him, not putting up with that line of thought.
Yes we can have companionship at the drop of a hat! It’s called friendship. It’s called being a real friend to your friends
No shit, but incels view anything with women in a totally transactional manner with sex involved so the idea of being friends with the opposite sex without fucking is alien to them.
The absolute irony of this is that they view everything with women in a transactional manner yet are unwilling to pay a sex worker for the sex they want. 🤦🏼♀️
Having spent some time in the mra/mgtow adjacent manosphere during my shithead phase they absolutely don't want to because it like doesn't "count" according to them if you pay for sex. It feels like it's just moving the goal posts so they can remain stuck in their misery of being lonely tbh
I gotta admit, it certainly doesn't feel like friendship is something that can be found at the drop of a hat either these days.
This is fair, making new friends can be hard. Doing activities you enjoy can help but it’s definitely much harder as an adult. Just like romantic relationships, finding friendship requires making an effort and putting yourself out there. The average incel doesn’t seem willing or able to do those things.
"Oh these poor frustrated young men. What a crisis. Oh those mean feminists! What do we do?"
There's no male loneliness crisis. There is however a male entitlement crisis.
I mean, it seems more constructive to say there is a general loneliness crisis, affecting women, NBs, and even non-incel men.
Correct, but the fact that men are singled out as the group suffering and the association of this partially constructed phenomenon with not having women available shows that it's an entitlement crisis (symptom of patriarchy in crisis).
me when i got rejected: cool, we good tho? continues being good friends
incels when rejected: and now i changed my entire personality and life to be as feral and disgusting as possible
incels when rejected: and now i changed my entire personality and life to be as feral and disgusting as possible
Lots of incels were already like that. Some always wanted a reign of terror, but were waiting to do it in a way where they felt there'd be little to no consequence for themselves. The more fascist a place gets the more quiet incels go mask off.
incels when rejected: and now i changed my entire personality and life to be as feral and disgusting as possible
I guess they always were disgusting people, and they thought they were entitled to a partner because they were "nice" or because they did something nice to said person. Some people will say the upbringing and media could have influenced these people to "become" incels, but I believe most of them already were entitled angry people who just can't handle a rejection and blame feminism or other stuff for their own faults, at least most of the time.
Wait, actually no it sucks more for women because dating isn't just putting your pride on the line, it's risking assault and verbal abuse everytime too. Oh but on top of that they get to hear from incels (and the media) about how easy it is for women to date. But again, no one gives a shit, because they're women, so who cares.
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Work Camps for Incels. Make them build housing or some shit, some good use for their miserable existence for once
This probably would also go a good way towards fixing the issues as well. Once again mao has shown us the way.
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I'm apparently the only mod in this comm and don't have time to monitor all the shit opinions cis dudes are throwing around in this thread, so I'm locking it.
Not sure how we get more mods but @CARCOSA@hexbear.net we could use some, thank you!
This is the way.
I mean there is a fairly big difference between a regular old misogynist and an incel, and that is that the former thrives within patriarchy and knows how to make the patriarchy work for him, whereas the latter doesn't.
Ew who would defend an incel, it is the most pathetic and pitiable bullshit ever
My whole life growing up before I transed my gender, boys would ask me for advice on talking to girls and I could never understand their inability to treat women like people. I would always give this style of advice and it almost never sunk in. Go figure. All it takes is basic empathy, but apparently that's a very high bar for men-in-general to clear.
PREACH!
They’re absolutely obnoxious and the shit they spew is mind-boggling. They think women love being abused because they date “bad boys” and not the nice seething nerd who spends their free time writing sexist comments online. It’s actually astonishing how these people, some of which have mothers and sisters, have no idea how to treat women and are shocked when men they consider “gay” or “beta” are in healthy relationships.
Thanks for reminding me of this silly essay I read in the NYT last week.
On the one hand, the author is correct re: the status games and ideology in relationships as a toxic thing.
But of course the article is in the service of further austerity (i.e. "ditch the male breadwinner" as cover for further producing precarity in the workforce by being gender neutral about it - it's not just "women's work" and service jobs anymore!). I want a communism/welfare state that also provides for everyone (even the incels). Indeed, our future will be better for women since they won't rely on men. If these idiots can't learn to date/socialize outside of a literal hostage-taking fairy tale myth (i.e. be dependent on me woman princess because I shield you from patriarchy), they must report for reeducation.