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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


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I fucking hate these people so much.

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[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 65 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I live in terror of the day she outgrows cute, and I worry constantly that as she grows bigger, her world grows

What the fuck

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 56 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When she isn't cute I don't want her anymore

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 28 points 2 months ago

My general disgust towards parents who seem to think the most important thing their kids could do is have grandkids

[–] VHS@hexbear.net 52 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

the reality and pain of a subset of parents of children with autism who feel left out of much of the conversation around the condition.

If anything they are always dominating the conversation despite being in the minority of autism cases. I understand it's hard for them, but it's not all about you and you're talking over autistic adults who should be heard more.

[–] Pentacat@hexbear.net 39 points 2 months ago (1 children)

They’re always talking over their children. Makes sense to ignore everyone who has lived experience with autism in favor of parents getting over the narcissistic wounding that came with having a kid that didn’t fit their fantasy.

[–] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 26 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Starting to think that narcissistic parents are way more common than anyone wants to admit.

[–] Bishop_Owl@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago

Yeah I'd say it makes sense that people who are not narcissists would have less interest in creating genetic copies of themselves. I'd be willing to bet that if we had the option of cloning, it would be the more popular one.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 21 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If anything they are always dominating the conversation despite being in the minority of autism cases. I understand it's hard for them, but it's not all about you and you're talking over autistic adults who should be heard more.

we had a nonverbal kid on the school bus one year and it was really cool of his parents and the school system to abuse that kid and by extension everyone else on the bus route on top of school starting too damn early in the morning. I'm not even sure if low-support adults are able to be effective advocates for the kids who have it the worst.

[–] VHS@hexbear.net 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Someone does need to advocate for them, I don't think their parents are qualified either. "Autism parents" seem so arrogant and self-centered

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago

for sure i'm just aware our needs are quite different and part of the problem is not being able to ask

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 51 points 2 months ago

parents of children with autism who feel left out of much of the conversation around the condition.

Oh yea, totally. The parents of autistic children are hardly ever heard from 🙄

We have moved from viewing disability through a purely medical lens — as something broken to be fixed

YOU CAN'T FIX IT!! god, why do people think if you invest enough tech points in an issue anything is possible? Just completely treat it as magic. I hate this attitude and it is so pervasive. You see people calling for conversion therapy with language like this too. Lots of disabilities are just- not fixable.

There’s a resistance to parents who wish their children were less disabled

I- I think everyone wishes your child was less disabled.

[–] Enjoyer_of_Games@hexbear.net 49 points 2 months ago (2 children)

oh yeah it's consent manufacturing time

[–] buckykat@hexbear.net 45 points 2 months ago

Whenever a ghoul proposes doing the most evil thing possible the NYT will be there to publish an article about how it's good actually

[–] dil@hexbear.net 6 points 2 months ago

Yeah I only made it through the first few paragraphs before it became clear this was antivax propaganda.

"I asked why she regressed, doctor says it's common"

"RFK Jr says..."

"I got her vaccinated"

Just right in a row.

So gross.

[–] vegeta1@hexbear.net 46 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Didn't take much for the "left of centrist" to side with fascist shit.

[–] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 30 points 2 months ago

Libs continue to prove Papa Stalin right about social democracy

[–] VILenin@hexbear.net 27 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

If Adolf Hitler were alive today, he’d call himself a progressive leftist.

[–] Lamprey@hexbear.net 30 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

That was sorta the schtick with the national socialists right?

[–] Florn@hexbear.net 23 points 2 months ago

Progressive Patriotism

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 22 points 2 months ago

"Why I left the left"

[–] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

"I'm left of center, but..." hitler-detector

[–] TrustedFeline@hexbear.net 45 points 2 months ago

I have no interest in defending Mr. Kennedy, whose shaky science and conspiracy theories will do nothing to benefit those with autism and their families.

And yet...

[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 44 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When Robert F. Kennedy Jr. said in a recent press briefing that autistic children will “never pay taxes,” “never hold a job,”

How terrible that must be

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (1 children)

yeah i love not being able to participate in society

[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 39 points 2 months ago

Robert Kennedy is more concerned with how much a worker can be exploited

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 40 points 2 months ago (1 children)

ugh, ew

i wish these people would question why the inability to hold a job and pay taxes is what makes someone considered worthless

[–] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 41 points 2 months ago

Yet another example of how the logic of capitalism leads inexorably to fascism.

[–] Llituro@hexbear.net 36 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Parents are encouraged not to use words like “severe,” “profound,” or even “Level 3” to describe our child’s autism

yeah, i wonder why. what a fucking nightmare this person is, i feel bad for her daughter. i like pokemon, i'm not literally a pokemon. when we say this shit has levels to it, i don't think ranking and numbering them is what anyone meant.

[–] FishLake@lemmygrad.ml 35 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Maybe, just maybe, laypeople shouldn’t use the same clinical and/or medicalized language used by professionals who know what the hell they’re talking about to describe their own children.

Same energy as the parents I was talking to a few months ago saying they have a “male son.” Oh okay, I thought this was a parent-teacher conference, but apparently I’m speaking to a couple zoologists.

[–] ThermonuclearEgg@hexbear.net 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

saying they have a “male son.”

makes me wonder what it would mean to have a "female son"

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 6 points 2 months ago

pretty sure i've heard boomers say that about having a daughter into sports and fixing old cars.

[–] blame@hexbear.net 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The NYT really loves letting the worst people have op-eds dont they

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 3 points 2 months ago

They've been known to request them.

[–] Zuzak@hexbear.net 29 points 2 months ago

It's Journalism's Sacred Duty To Endanger The Lives Of As Many ~~Trans~~ Autistic People As Possible.

[–] VILenin@hexbear.net 26 points 2 months ago

There isn’t a vat of boiling acid hot enough to drown this person in

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Someone wanna fill me in on what else the Kennedy ghoul said that must be so controversial it's not included in this article?

[–] simontherockjohnson@lemmy.ml 16 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)
[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

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[–] Hohsia@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago

Jesus fucking Christ it’s always the Godamn parents

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago

"Finally" our turn? I thought we were one of the first...

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 12 points 2 months ago

This is the type of person who complains about wheelchair ramps or parks in handicapped parking spaces.