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Informal Site Survey: Pride Edition! Are you a cisgender heterosexual? Yes, no, or unsure? (hexbear.net)

submitted 4 months ago by kristina@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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Hey, we still haven't been able to find a secure way to poll everyone yet. I've really been wanting to ask (in the negative, to be more inclusive) what proportion of Hexbear is queer. This isn't going to be super scientific or anything as a result, but just a quick guess.

Please respond to this post with the following emojis :

For yes, you ARE a cisgender heterosexual (cishet):

dean-smile

For no, you are NOT a cisgender heterosexual (cishet):

dean-frown

For unsure, as in you are UNSURE or QUESTIONING if you are queer, transgender, a cisgender heterosexual (cishet), etc:

dean-neutral

If you have anything to add, please use a spoiler tag below your answer like so:

spoiler

hi!

Remember to respond even if you are cisgender, queer, or otherwise. Everyone should try to respond, if you feel comfortable!

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[–] MF_COOM@hexbear.net 34 points 4 months ago (1 children)

what is this honeypot

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[–] Finger@hexbear.net 33 points 4 months ago

waltuh

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 30 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Hexbear has more lgbt people than the liberal lgbt instances and it's not even trying. fidel-layup fidel-balling

The one neat trick: Visible pronouns that aren't buried in a performative section of the profile page where people can ignore that they exist.

[–] PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS@hexbear.net 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

dean-frown imagine being on Hexbear for any length of time and still being cisgender kombucha-disgust

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 22 points 4 months ago (6 children)

:sadness:

does being non-conforming to the colloquial understanding of masculinity count?

[–] Red_Sunshine_Over_Florida@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

I mean, that is basically the asterisk I put after I call myself cisgender. And even then, only in the sense that I don't identify with the stuff that the boomer men around me consider to be masculine (ie: steaks, football, and diy auto maintenance culture). Signifiers that are frankly becoming dated at this point.

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

The only thing that I can call traditionally masculine that fits me, is that I like working with shit. If it's something I can get inside of and understand, you better be damn fucking sure I'm tinkering and fixing it on my own terms.

Friends and family tend to call me Złota Rączka

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[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

Nobody's perfect

[–] sharedburdens@hexbear.net 20 points 4 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown

miku-gun hello cisgenders

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 4 months ago

Hello :33333

[–] Leon_Frotsky@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

dean-frown big showing from the five cishet guys on here

[–] SkeletorJesus@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

There's not even a full podcast of us.

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

kirby-wave

There's also like 3 cishet women which is great, love that for them.

[–] Cromalin@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago (2 children)

dean-frown

it feels wrong frowning at something that brings so much joy and is the morally correct thing to be

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I wish we had a poll service I'm just trying to get things done faster

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[–] Assian_Candor@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

dean-smile but everyone's a little gay innit

[–] EcoMaowist@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

:dean-frown: literally scheduled to start HRT soon, but who knows? Probably still cis. /s

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown

[–] Red_Sunshine_Over_Florida@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

Love the flag btw.

[–] aaro@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

YOU POOR, CISHET FOOLS - YOU'RE ALL GETTING ONE-MONTH BANS NOW dean-frown

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[–] SoyViking@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

dean-smile

Spoiler

For all practical purposes? Yes. I'm a cisgender man who is in a relationship with the mother of my children and I want to keep it that way.

If I for some hypothetical reason were to find a new partner I feel like I could be with any gender, they're all hot in each their own way so I guess I'm bisexual at heart although I feel like applying that label to myself is done form of stolen valor.

As for gender I feel fine about presenting as a guy although it could be fun experimenting from time to time.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

spoiler

i tried to be cishet though. good lord, did i try to make that work

[–] CarbonScored@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

Though only like two people in my real life know because that feels scary to share.

[–] Philosoraptor@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

dean-smile

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

:dean-neutral:

oh I should spoiler this

realistically I might not be cis, given the amount of time I spend in the trans mega. Maybe next poll I'll upgrade myself again.

[–] MayoPete@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

dean-neutral pete

[–] MayoPete@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

IDK... I like ladies. I like penises. I like ladies with penises. And maybe a few guys, but body hair is a turn off. 🤷‍♂️

[–] niph@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

dean-neutral

spoiler

I am afab and present as cis and het. I was in love with a girl in high school but haven’t really been attracted to another woman since though I’ve had like romantic-adjacent feelings. I think I might be somewhere in the nb space but I don’t have dysphoria or anything I just don’t particularly feel engaged with the idea of femininity or gender at all

[–] CascadeOfLight@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

dean-smile

[–] commiewithoutorgans@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

dean-smile I've said it before, I'm bi and very much not attached to my manhood. But for any poll's sake, it's not fitting to ignore that I live in and experience the world as a cishet.

[–] volcel_olive_oil@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

dean-smile

spoiler

just the cissiest little cissy hetting all over the place

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 4 months ago

:dean-smile:

[–] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

I mean, it's in the name.

[–] alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

spoiler

some days I'm like "am I really queer though??" and then I remember I got a gender affirming surgery

[–] KimJongGoku@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

[–] WashedAnus@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

dean-neutral

spoiler

In a very long term cishet relationship (probably longer than many hexbears have been alive), so I don't really consider myself biderman

, but that would likely change if my relationship status did. Note: this is just something I apply to myself, not others, so I still think you're valid in your identity if this same thing applies to you but you think differently.

[–] PaX@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

[–] WIIHAPPYFEW@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

dean-frown tfw cishets smh

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[–] Commiejones@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

dean-smile

[–] catter@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

dean-frown

spoiler

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike 7 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

:dean-frown:

spoiler

although my account isn't on the hexbear instance.

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

type :dean-frown:

This is a method I coined as cross-site emoji posting, but then only Hexbears will be able to see it. I use it all the time.

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[–] EndOfHerstory@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

dean-frown

Edit: definitely misread the instructions.

[–] charly4994@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

dean-frown

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