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going onto the bear site to tell everyone you are spending too much time on the bear site

I see it this way: the bear website kept me relatively sane in my worst periods. If I only had reddit/twitter/fb/etc my brain would have turned to mush as I lost all hope in humans. It's only because I still have some sanity left that I am now able to make a tentative attempt at making irl friends.

The danger of how cozy and safe this space is it becomes hard to leave. Venture forth brave adventurer! There are comrades to be found to form a party so you won’t have to go alone.

hexbear is generally nice to have, meanwhile the rest of the internet just feels very hostile. this website is probably the only place im social at to, since like in real life I have a lot of trouble speaking due to having trouble speaking/speech issues. and that is very isolating at times. also it just nice to just vent on here about stuff.

I feel you. I wonder to what degree posting here is just a bandaid for the fact that ive found out that my friends are almost reactionary without exception.

you are one of the bright posters who help balance out the sometimes painful lemmyverse. sorry to hear the alienation under capitalism is getting to be an acute problem. and that this den of libs is your best option right now. hope you stumble into some more social spaces that make you feel not just tolerated but appreciated.

Tagline machine is fucking possessed and provides appropriate material:

Do not, my friends, become addicted to posting. It will take hold of you, and you will resent logging off!

HUHUHUH, ITS JUST THAT EASY HUH

I browsed reddit until the api stuff, then I stopped.

I had all this wonderful free time I wasted until I found Lemmy and its various instances.

Now I waste time browsing lemmy

I have Hexbear and some discord servers too. I dont move on from them easily like you but my friendships are entirly online. My irl freinds werent all garbage (though I will note, I am ok with being friends with a lib who's not too obnoxious about it) but they either lapsed, or yeah they were garbage and I had to dfistance, but also there was my one big irl friend I had left that cut me off for some petty bullshit and yeah Im without real life connections entirly now.

could have written this post myself, every word of this is true for me, too

I occasionally try to hang out with my cool neighbors, but it doesn't work out often, and I still end up with post-hang anxiety

been kinda wondering if maybe there's an OCD component to my thought processes that's getting in the way here, but idk where to even begin to try to deal with that and just don't have the fucks for it currently

anyway - ✨ solitude solidarity ✨ - you've got us, we've got you ❤️

I have a small.social network but it would definitely not meet my human interaction needs without the website here. I don't know of any other places on thr internet with anything like this quality of vibe so it would be a serious blow for my mental health to lose it for sure.

i think you should remain friends with people who don't share your esoteric political views

I'm in my 40s, I have zero friends and haven't had any for over 30 years. Acquaintances come and go but no long lasting friendships. It usually ends up a disaster any time I have put myself out there to have people outright ignore or avoid me so I stopped and don't plan or try anymore. I have social anxiety enough it can affect me online in that I go months lurking and talking to nobody. I sit and read conversations to sate any kind of interaction. I doubt anything can change at this point and I've lost all will to anymore.

My friends seemed alright, but then I continued to be covid cautious

yeah same. I also used to have IRL friends, except they basically became online friends due to everyone moving. they aren't all bad but one guy is so bad I left the whole group a couple years back and haven't had friends since

Too real I had some social life during school with my gf, but we broke up and school ended, and now I just have my family (and they’re annoying) and online commies. I also move through online spaces, including getting banned from a discord of people I know irl for saying death to “amerikkka.” There’s got to be lonely people in the real world, right? It seems like everyone’s either siloed into their friend groups or given up and terminally online. Someone out there has to be interested in my philosophical ranting, right?

honestly this place is good to rehabilitate yourself after periods of isolation but you gotta go out there and eat dog shit sometimes. it's part of learning to be more social. real life challenges us in ways that this place can't and that's a good thing

I've accepted that I just don't form long term friendships. Some aspect of me as a person makes other people not really care, never message first, etc etc. I think I'm fine with it, honestly. It sucks obviously but it could be worse. I still make friends, they just quickly lose interest in me when they discover that my interestingness is mostly superficial. I'm a cartoon of myself.

So I get you. It sucks I guess, but thems the breaks.