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[–] Cowbee@hexbear.net 45 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

South Korean incels are on another level of misogyny, partially brought on by a historical tradition of patriarchy combined with rapidly moving women into the work force.

Women in South Korea are generally far more progressive as a consequence, and men have not been able to keep up with this as a whole. Instead, they are even more reactionary, it's a magnified version of what exists in countries like America.

[–] Frank@hexbear.net 44 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Everything I've heard about patriarchy in SK makes it sound like absolute hell. What's that maybe exists maybe not movement where women are essentially doing 70s feminist secession from men? I've heard a bit about it and some of the interviews with women about the shit they go through are harrowing.

[–] emizeko@hexbear.net 32 points 4 months ago (2 children)

NATOpedai: 4B movement

4B (or "Four Nos") is a feminist movement whose proponents refuse to 1) date men, 2) get married, 3) have sex with men, or 4) have children.

[–] hello_hello@hexbear.net 30 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

The 4B movement got outed as being TERF.

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 30 points 4 months ago (2 children)

To add

The movement has approximately 3,400 members on Naver

Pretty damn small to boot

[–] Othello@hexbear.net 25 points 4 months ago

Yeah Americans love to say things like “the population decline in South Korea is because of the 4b movement” when it’s not a big thing at all. It drives me crazy. It’s just buying into right wing propaganda about population decline.

[–] Frank@hexbear.net 18 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, my understanding is it's one of those things where the line between an actual movement, a symbolic expression of rage, and right wing fearmongering is hard to draw.

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

One notable feature of the 4B movement, as with other Korean digital feminist movements, is that members often identify themselves as "anonymous women," as it is conventional not to disclose personal details online.[

Korea "fem-anon" language to distinguish from just "anon" (assumed male) amuses me.

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 42 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 21 points 4 months ago

Few dialogue options slap this hard

[–] nothx@hexbear.net 40 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Men would rather blame women for their mental health than get therapy.

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 25 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

When I was on reddit-logo , I'd argue every day with the "Men's Rights Activists" on the circumcision subreddits. It would range from dishonest shit like "most doctors doing circumcision are women" to really unfair attacks like "why aren't feminists protesting about male suicide" (answer: because MRAs are fucking assholes and feminists have their own problems). In the end, it was those guys that drove me out of Reddit for good.

I was just super embarrassed, because any normal person would see their conversations and think that anti-circumcision people were massive turds.

[–] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 23 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I don't get that one about protesting. Why aren't MEN protesting about male suicide rates? I've never even heard of one protest in regards to it.

It reminds me of the line racists use about the black community. "Why don't black people do anything about black on black violence?" And that one is easy because.... they have and are. They protest. They form community action groups. They pressure local governments. They speak out. There is so much movement in black communities across America to address poverty, violence, education and more. White people just don't see it or hear about it because the media does not care and does not show their efforts but it is there.

[–] Ericthescruffy@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Never identified as an MRA but, having dipped my toe into the waters on that shit a bit, straight up I honestly genuinely unironically think they don't actually give a shit about male suicide rates or "men" in general at all. They are for one reason or another as a whole: deeply selfish bitter reactionary people who don't care about community and they are basically cosplaying like they have one.

And really that isn't surprising because the truth is that if you actually ARE serious about digging into and addressing any of the grievances they claim to be concerned with you will actually start to realize that essentially ALL of them are symptoms of cis white male patriarchy under capitalism. Take family court for example. Half of MRAs probably think there's some kind of feminist cabal out to persecute fathers but the degree to which family court favors mothers (if at all) is the result of: 1: Old crusty white male judges who decided centuries ago that a woman's role is to be nurturer and a father's role is to work a job. 2: The reality that men are in general not conditioned to build and maintain support networks through friends and family which in turn makes the logistics of childcare more difficult.

[–] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

I was there when the men's rights subreddit was created. It was actually posted about and promoted in the socialism reddit for like a week. That's about as long as it took to become reactionary. The first few days there were a lot of feminists there ready to address men's issues and evaluated it just like this. They were all pushed out quickly. It's almost a case study how that community formed and developed.

Ultimately you are right, though. There is so much about it that is steeped in patriarchy and are issues that women are fed up with, too. I think feminism has a place for men's issues because feminism is a way to tackle human issues and that space could have been a great place to spread that. It seemed it might have been for a day or two even. But the reactionary elements of the MRA movement are either deaf to it or actively undermining it.

[–] aaaaaaadjsf@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I don't get that one about protesting. Why aren't MEN protesting about male suicide rates? I've never even heard of one protest in regards to it.

I mean the why here is the same reason for why male suicide rates are so high. The shame and social stigma associated with it.

[–] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

I know this isn't you but imagine them saying this. "We want to change the social stigma around this and bring attention to it but we never protest or demonstrate about it." Uh, then you don't care.

[–] nothx@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Leave it to men on reddit to pivot the conversation from “why circumcision is bad” to “evil women think circumcisions aren’t enough!”

Laughable fuckheads.

[–] Egon@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

When I was on stormfront I'd argue every day with the "Men's Rights Activists" on the circumcision subreddits.

New tagline dropped

[–] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 37 points 4 months ago (1 children)

First off cw for discussion of suicideShameful behavior. It's a combination of capitalist exploitation and the fact that men are more likely than women to choose more radical and violent methods of committing suicide which have higher rates of success.

Additionally if you didn't know, women in Korea have historically been at higher risk of suicide than men are due to the very patriarchal culture in place in addition to the entrance of women into the workplace adding additional labor unto their already existing plate.

https://www.hani.co.kr/arti/society/society_general/969898.html#cb

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

men are more likely than women to choose more radical and violent methods of committing suicide

Struggle session: Is this an effect of socialisation or are men biologically more violent?

[–] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Hmm ima say bit of both but the former magnifies by multiple levels of magnitude the latter

[–] RedWizard@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

CW: Suicide

Men are more likely to own a firearm then woman (in America).

White men are especially likely to be gun owners: About half (48%) say they own a gun, compared with about a quarter of white women and nonwhite men (24% each) and 16% of nonwhite women.

And firearms account for more then half of all suicides.

White males accounted for 68.46% of suicide deaths in 2022. In 2022, firearms accounted for 54.64% of all suicide deaths.

However, it's very likely that twice as many woman make attempts then men.

Based on the most recent Youth Risk Behaviors Survey from 2021 (most recent results), 10.0% of youth in grades 9-12 reported that they had made at least one suicide attempt in the past 12 months. Female students attempted 1.86 times as often as male students (13% vs. 7%). American Indian or Alaska Native students reported the highest rate of attempt (16%) with white students at 9%. Approximately 3% of all students reported making a suicide attempt that required treatment by a doctor or nurse.

So, men, to put it coldly are more efficient at the task, thanks to their more likely access to more effective methods.

In the absence of these facts one might look at the rates for men and conclude something disproportionate is happening to men. The reality paints a different picture.

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 36 points 4 months ago

Women: "JFC can you just leave us the fuck alone" lea-tired

[–] supafuzz@hexbear.net 31 points 4 months ago (1 children)

critical support to South Korean women in their war against South Korean men

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

uncritical support to South Korean women in their war against South Korean men

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 30 points 4 months ago

It's everybody's faults except capitalism.

[–] hello_hello@hexbear.net 21 points 4 months ago

Councillor Kim, from the Democratic Party, arrived at his assessment when analysing data on the number of suicide attempts made at bridges along Seoul’s Han river.

Touche for a Democrat to use pseudoscience to promote bigotry.

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 19 points 4 months ago (1 children)

begun to change into a female-dominant society

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA

Outside of islamic states Korea is the most male dominated society in the world.

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

I think for some people, going from 200% patriarchy to 99% patriarchy means "female dominated".

[–] Bloobish@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago

Maybe don't create a society that treats women like trash, normalizes workplace SA, has workers grinding themselves to death for their bosses, and also fires people if they don't exhibit acceptable workplace alcoholism (being coerced to go a drink every night with your bosses for a chance to moving up the corporate ladder).

[–] citrussy_capybara@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago

모태솔로 hell joseon

[–] Tankiedesantski@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

Capitalist Korea looking at Japan's social and population collapse:

"Hey hold my sochu."

[–] Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

Kim Jong Un, my people yearn for freedom from {insert perpetual condition of the Adam Friedland show's predecessor} of Hell Joseon...

At least, pls send us a nuke on our land and ye shall take away our suffering...

  • Love, Mr. Gulbuddin Hekmatyar
[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

I'm not sure if this is progress or regress from blaming electric fans

[–] MelianPretext@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Everything that has been said against suicide goes round and round in the same circle of ideas. People cite against it the decrees of Providence, but the existence of suicide is itself an open protest against her indecipherable decrees. They talk to us of our duties to this society without explaining or implementing our own claims on society, and finally they exalt the thousand times greater merit of overcoming pain rather than succumbing to it, a merit as sad as the prospects it opens up. In short, they make of suicide an act of cowardice, a crime against the law, [society] and honour.

“Why is it that in spite of so many anathemas people kill themselves? Because the blood of men in despair does not run through their veins in the same way as that of the cold beings who take the time to coin all those fruitless phrases. Man seems to be a mystery to man; he can only be blamed, he is not known. When we see how light-mindedly the institutions under whose domination Europe lives dispose of the blood and life of the nations, how civilised justice surrounds itself lavishly with prisons, chastisements and instruments of death so as to sanction its insecure decisions; when we see the numerical immensity of the classes which on all sides are left in misery, and the social pariahs who are battered by brutal contempt, meant to be preventive, perhaps to save the trouble of lifting them out of their squalor; when we see all this, we fail to understand what entitles us to command the individual to respect in himself an existence which our customs, our prejudices, our laws and our morals generally trample underfoot.

“It was thought that it would be possible to prevent suicide by degrading punishments and by branding the memory of the culprit with infamy. What can one say of the unworthiness of such branding of people who are no longer there to plead their case? The unfortunates, by the way, are little worried by that; and if suicide accuses anybody, it accuses above all the people who are left behind, because there is not one in this multitude who deserves that anyone should stay alive for him. Have the childish and cruel means devised been victorious against the whisperings of despair? What does he who wants to flee the world care about the insults which the world promises to his corpse? He only sees in them yet another act of cowardice on the part of the living. What kind of society is it, indeed, where one finds the profoundest solitude in the midst of millions; where one can be overwhelmed by an irrepressible desire to kill oneself wthout anybody being aware of it? This society is no society, it is as Rousseau says, a desert inhabited by wild animals. In the positions which I held in the police administration suicides were part of my responsibility; I wished to learn whether among the causes motivating them there were any whose effect could be obviated. I undertook extensive work on the subject.” I found that any attempts short of a total reform of the present order of society would be in vain.

  • "On Suicide" by Jacques Peuchet; collated by Karl Marx, 1845.
[–] 2Password2Remember@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

incels killing themselves is good lol

Death to America

[–] Tankiedesantski@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

Weird take comrade. The uptick in suicides is much more likely a result of capitalism and its systems than specifically incels killing themselves. Just because it's being spun by neolib politicians as a sex issue doesn't mean it actually is.