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can't help but laugh that these were the same people making fun of Arabs for being "misogynistic"

Colonizers always project

[–] turmoil@hexbear.net 56 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm getting a little uncomfortable with the whole "all gen Z men are fascists" rhetoric lately. I don't think that's true. way too many of them are for sure, but there's plenty of leftists or at least radlibs too. a lot of Gen Z men at those campus protests for Palestine. from what I can tell Gen Z has been radicalized in all sorts of different directions, but the media only wants to talk about the ones who have been radicalized to the right... for some reason

and let's not act like older men are any better. millennials and Gen X created the manosphere and a lot of them are consuming it too

[–] Dengalicious@lemmygrad.ml 30 points 2 days ago

Band-wagon appeal. They want to make the far-right even more popular by making many young men think that everyone else in their group is as well.

[–] rhubarb@hexbear.net 127 points 2 days ago (4 children)

A feminist guy who is in his late twenties and dates a 19-year-old

[–] Hexboare@hexbear.net 72 points 2 days ago

A regular Joss Whedon

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 50 points 2 days ago

He’s feminist because he still splits the bill 50/50. feminism

[–] Cysioland@lemmygrad.ml 49 points 2 days ago

"Feminist" compared to Andrew Tate

[–] lil_tank@hexbear.net 38 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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[–] oscardejarjayes@hexbear.net 51 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Honestly I feel like I'm taking crazy pills whenever people online talk about this, I barely see any tate influence in the young men I know. The older folks seem wildly misogynistic, in comparison.

And these aren't even just people from like orgs, I volunteer at high schools and professional associations with student wings (in a generally conservative industry) where I meet plenty of young people.

[–] whogivesashit@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

In my experience, a lot of these dudes are also incredibly aware of how their politics are perceived in general and don't espouse them as blatantly as someone from an older generation might.

Being someone masc presenting at work, I've had several instances where I ended up alone with other young male coworkers and was subjected to outpouring of misogynistic nonsense when they thought they have someone who was on their side and wouldnt report them.

And whats more crazy is I've never been close to any of these people outside of a work environment and never discussed anything remotely personal at all. They genuinely just thought "here's another male, they'll agree with me". Mostly millennial more than gen-z if that matters to anyone.

For more personal anecdotes about the older generation thing. I've had two older like gen-z bosses who just blatantly pointed out women's bodies they were eyeing while we were walking into work with like a crowd of people. Boss dynamics make it also different but it just also feels like younger dudes wouldn't be as blatant idk.

[–] oscardejarjayes@hexbear.net 1 points 2 hours ago

Hmm, you might have a point. I could definitely see them being better at keeping it to themselves.

[–] Dengalicious@lemmygrad.ml 31 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I would like to see any empirical evidence to suggest what percent actually like him/other misogynistic icons. It is definitely far too many but I imagine the media might just be trying to get clicks and shares by saying that everyone is.

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

In the Netherlands the public broadcaster polled young men and found that one in four "agreed (partially) with Andrew Tate" and that in that group half of them agreed with his statement that women are lazy compared to men.

If you look at support for the far-right, it's usually much higher among young men than among young women, except in France where the RN scores high among both. On average the far-right is supported by a third of young men, going by an EU poll from 2024: https://www.politico.eu/article/europe-young-people-right-wing-voters-far-right-politics-eu-elections-parliament/

The most damning study is this one, where 60% of Gen Z men believe the US has become "too soft and feminine": https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2024/aug/07/gen-z-voters-political-ideology-gender-gap

However, it says that this doesn't make them exceptionally conservative, it only looks like it because young women are turning left at a high rate, creating a large political gap between the genders:

Gen Z men, Deckman noted, have “reverted to the mean of men”: while they’re not necessarily more conservative that most men, they are more conservative than their millennial counterparts.

Note: the graph only considers "liberals" and "conservatives"

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[–] autism_2@hexbear.net 53 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Psyop article I don't believe men from older generations are any better and especially not the ones going after 19 year old women

[–] eyyImwalkin@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I originally wanted to date ~28 and up year olds but 22-25 year olds kept hitting on me

I have never gone after a woman, only waited (I'm 32 yo)

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 20 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

If we take this graph at face value (it's boxed in by the US party duopoly and the nost extreme young men probably weren't interested in a poll about their beliefs) it amounts to a political divergence between the genders and young men being relatively more conservative:

Gen Z men, Deckman noted, have “reverted to the mean of men”: while they’re not necessarily more conservative that most men, they are more conservative than their millennial counterparts.

Source: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2024/aug/07/gen-z-voters-political-ideology-gender-gap

[–] autism_2@hexbear.net 16 points 2 days ago

Thx for the info. Adding that a man identifying with left/lib politics doesn't guarantee him to not be a misogynist, but a young woman may not yet recognize that.

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[–] Damarcusart@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I think this may be a little overblown. "Gurus" offering the magic solution to teenage boys/young adults to get girls to notice them have been around for decades. A lot of these kids will grow out of it once they realise it doesn't actually work, and the "trick" is to just be understanding and empathetic.

That being said, I've got a friend in their early 20s and her dating experiences do seem to reflect this sort of thing, seems like at least 60% of guys on dating apps fall for this bullshit. Though it could be survivorship bias, they are gross creeps, so they don't get a girlfriend and thus remain on the app much longer than the guys who aren't total creeps.

[–] uglyface@hexbear.net 80 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I've worked really hard to make sure my 18 year old doesn't fall into the manosphere/mra/conservative trap. It has taken a lot of actual active parenting, discussions and compassion. Knowing all his peers and their parents... I guess we're screwed.

[–] buh@hexbear.net 59 points 2 days ago

broke: MRA frothingfash

woke: IRA trouble

[–] CleverOleg@hexbear.net 34 points 2 days ago

On flip side, I have a daughter and I’m trying to figure how I help navigate all this when she gets older.

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[–] Super_Lumalo@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

Good thing I'm 21 sweat

[–] PapaEmeritusIII@hexbear.net 65 points 2 days ago (9 children)

I’m gen Z and my partner is a millennial guy #AgeGap #PowerDynamics

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(we were born in ‘98 and ‘95, respectively) picard-troll

[–] turmoil@hexbear.net 27 points 2 days ago

stuff like this really illustrates how fake generations are. you're in a "different generation" with someone 3 years older, but in the "same generation" as someone 15 years younger, while your partner is in the "same generation" as someone 15 years older

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 43 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Minor downside of transitioning is I will no longer get to mog guys by having an iota of emotional intelligence. I'll just be "normal" or more likely deficient

[–] IAmNotReal@hexbear.net 31 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Dating pre transition was definitely pretty easy because of how low the bar was for men but holy shit cishet dating dynamics and norms is so insanely stupid it makes me more than happy to deal with the much higher bar nowadays for wlw and lesbians

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 64 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Suddenly it makes a lot of sense why women 10-15 years younger than me keep hitting on me despite me really not having any interest in dating someone that much younger lol (I'm ~40 but I do also look kinda younger). Must fuckin suck to be a young woman with all this shit.

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 49 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I can't say much for how the straight demographic at that age is holding up because the only straight people i hang out with are a few pre-transition friends who are roughly my age, but when i'm in queer spaces and have a conversation with younger women i often hear them say stuff like "you know, i'm actually pan, BUT ..." and then the horror stories about why they've given up on men begin.

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[–] marxisthayaca@hexbear.net 36 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I wonder if these guys ever realize, I’m voicing someone else’s opinions and not even getting a crumb of pussy.

Need some sort deprogramming for these dudebros along the lines of: Defending another man’s ideas on a date? Letting ideology ruin a good chance with a girl. Gay as fuck bro. (Jk)

[–] vegeta1@hexbear.net 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Funny part is.... You doing all this not only for someone that doesn't know you exist, but said on social media that having sex with a woman to feel good is gay and probably thinks a woman's orgasm is a myth. I don't even go that hard for my team and you out here ruining ya dates over this no chin having ass goof?

[–] Fluke@lemm.ee 7 points 1 day ago

My favourite shot at Andrew Taint; he was mildly successful in kickboxing not because he has a strong chin, but because he has a ninja chin, impossible to hit because you can't find it.

He grew in his bread to hide the fact he literally doesn't have a chin.

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[–] SevenSkalls@hexbear.net 56 points 2 days ago (4 children)

If you look at the top political streamers, the conservative and manosphere dominates podcasts and twitch streamers. Hasan seems to be the only one in a leftist direction that makes numbers anywhere near all the other guys. Maybe we need others who seem "cool" that appeal to a younger demographic? Idk.

[–] ksynwa@lemmygrad.ml 74 points 2 days ago (5 children)

I think the mainstream western platforms just have an innate disposition to promote right wing stuff. I find it hard to believe that imbeciles like Joe Rogan came out triumphant in the battle in the marketplace of ideas.

[–] grazing7264@hexbear.net 63 points 2 days ago

It's by design - the fascist algorithm designed by fascists to create little fascists is working as intended

treatler hitler-detector

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[–] FedPosterman5000@hexbear.net 50 points 2 days ago

Lmao also somewhat explains how as a guy from that same time frame 90% of the friends I’ve made are lesbian. Like the you wanna hang out and drink a beer and talk about your shitty work? You don’t want some dude talking about whatever they saw on youtube, you want a salt of the earth lesbian who’s actually been through the ringer with you and you know you have each others backs

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 56 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It's a vicious cycle of watching porn, thinking real life is a porno, getting frustrated that you're not sexed-up 24/7, seeking out other lonely men, getting radicalized off red pill types that prey on lonely men, rinse and repeat.

[–] Sandouq_Dyatha@lemmy.ml 51 points 2 days ago (4 children)

seeking out other lonely men,

the right move at that stage was kissing other lonely men and finding out true love there

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[–] vegeta1@hexbear.net 51 points 2 days ago

The kids are definitely not alright and they won't be for a while.

[–] quarrk@hexbear.net 35 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My hope is that nothing really changed for the worse, and it’s just that dating scenes are always dominated by men looking to score instead of get into a serious (and equitable) relationship.

Millennials had h3h3 and pewdiepie. I don’t think it meaningfully prevented those same viewers from a leftist turn if they were ever going to. Sometimes this shit just boils down to “kids can be dumb” and then they turn out fine after their prefrontal cortex finishes developing at 25.

[–] meowMix2525@lemm.ee 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The audience that took off for h3 (and that whole orbit) and pewdiepie* was definitely the older part of gen z, not millennials. There are zoomers that are as old as 28 (born in 1997).

*tbqh I don't think pewdiepie deserves a mention here. Heated gamer moments aside, I really just don't see him as a major political influence for the audiences that watched his stuff especially early on.

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 35 points 2 days ago (5 children)

the articulated details are different, but the trend has generally been 5-15 years older guys with women in my lived experience since high school ended.

when I was in my 20s, my woman friends and colleagues my age were often in longer term relations with guys in their mid 30s. late 20s with 40s. and on and on.

I've never seriously dated someone that much younger. but as I've gotten older the pool of women expressing interest has gotten wider. which I attribute to appearing young for my age, but I'm sure there's more to it.

in my early 20s, it was non existent. which, looking back, I get lol. ignorant, insecure, no plan, shit-not-together.

[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 points 2 hours ago

Personally, when I was in my 20s, everyone I knew except for a couple people were dating someone close in age. It felt weird to me when a friend got engaged to someone 5 years older. People that much older seemed so different. I had guys decades older try to get with me, but I saw them as parental figures, if anything.

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[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 29 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

upside is the bar is very low, so i can just act normal.

which can be kind of challenging to me but hey.

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