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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (21 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

BountifulEggnog (4/28 - 5/4)
Hestia (5/5 - 5/11)
EstraDoll* (5/12 - 5/18)
SadArtemis* (5/19 - 5/25)
yewler* (5/26 - 6/1)
AshenWolf* (6/2 - 6/8)
PeeNutButtHer (6/9 - 6/15)
oscardejarjayes* (6/16 - 6/22)
GayTuckerCarlson* (6/23 - 6/29)
Eco* (6/30 - 7/6)
Disaster_of_Passion (7/7 - 7/13)
peanutbuttercupola* (7/14 - 7/20)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 31 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Remember when the pope said "gender ideology is the ugliest danger of our time"?

Sure is cool to see so much of this site gushing over this guy

[–] BatsAreRats@hexbear.net 22 points 2 weeks ago

I was literally just thinking this, really really not cool to see that shit here

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

I saw someome compare the anti pope sentiment to hating trans people.

The poor, oppressed Christians 🙄

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[–] mendiCAN@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

If it makes you feel any better i have personally held back my words and feelings on that dead pos outta respect for the people in here that have faith, and i bet I'm not close to the only one. All i really wanna do is post dead-motherfucker and packwatch and did-someone but im not the kind to start a struggle sesh

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 31 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I have so much respect for people who are out because that is so scary to me. I love and admire people who's presentation is audacious and challenges your views. I love trans people who do not "pass" and are happy about it, because they have so much confidence in their identity. I feel so afraid to be visibly queer, visibly different. I've never come out about my gender irl, and very few people know about my sexuality.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 22 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

There are people who as soon as their egg cracks they are out and proud and idk how they do it

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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

Felt exactly the same when my egg cracked. Took me almost a year to finally tell someone else, and even then I only did it because I was forced to.

But what I’ve learned over the years of being stuck in the closet and being gatekept forever was that it doesn’t matter how scared you are. What matters is how strong your desire to be yourself is.

I’m still very self-conscious and it’s still scary to go outside and make myself vulnerable. But I nonetheless do it because I just cannot bear to hide my existence any longer. I don’t want to go back to feeling suffocated by living a lie.

And I guess this strong desire just kind of overrides my anxiety and pushes me forward. So even though a lot of people have told me that I’m brave for being so open about myself, in reality I’m still as scared as you are. It’s just that I have no other choice.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 26 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

My pronouns are not an accidental duplication, I'd like a double serve of she-s and her-s to make up for lost time please.

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 25 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Contacted a therapist today. Please be proud of me doggirl-tears

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 25 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I'm now a post-op trans girl.

spoilerThe op was a colonoscopy

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 24 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I read a lot of hexbears yearning posts and I feel for you all, for sure, I get it's lonely. I've been single for 2 years and I just don't feel like it's a bad fate to be single. I had my great love story and it ended how it did, I feel like I'm set and good for life. I remember the feeling though: wishing I had someone close, who I could trust, who loved me, who was there when I was sad or down, feeling so so alone and desperate. I just personally haven't felt it in a loooong time

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 22 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

The UK needs to be broken up and TERFs should be hauled off to a gulag. Unironically. Give occupied Ireland back, and give the Scots and Welsh their independence. Then put England under strict military rule until the brain worms can be properly excised.

Seriously, what justification does the UK have for their backward bullshit? The US is full of (and run by) religious nuts, so that kind of thing is expected. What’s the UK’s excuse for their backwardness?

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's been way too long since i've randomly yelled

trans-hammer-sickle DICTATORSHIP OF THE QUEER trans-hammer-sickle

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 21 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I just wanted to borrow a bit of e because i was running low, so i headed over to her place and did my shot, we made a little smalltalk and then she kinda just fell into me and we started cuddling. And kept cuddling and giving headpats and scritches and holding hands and hugging each other for an hour and a half. God, i'm still gushing when i think about how good it was to hold her like that. How good she smells, how soft her skin is. At one point, she fell asleep in my arms and she started twitching like a dreaming puppy. It was so cute. She's so precious. I'm so glad i have her in my life.

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[–] sictransitgloria@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago

yes-honey-left why is the bbc so fucking transphobic who are these people why do the care so much

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

my other yuriposting forum is gone so im going to post here

(i'm really only posting this because i wanted to know if i can make cleaner "scanlations" than whichever monkey with a typewriter did the "original" of this one)

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago

I saw the Pope at a grocery store in Los Angeles the other day. I told him how cool it was to meet him in person, but I didn’t want to be a douche and bother him and ask him for photos or anything. He said, “Oh, like you’re doing now?” I was taken aback, and all I could say was “Huh?” but he kept cutting me off and going “huh? huh? huh?” and closing his hand shut in front of my face. I walked away and continued with my shopping, and I heard him chuckle as I walked off. When I came to pay for my stuff up front I saw him trying to walk out the doors with like fifteen Milky Ways in his hands without paying. The girl at the counter was very nice about it and professional, and was like “Sir, you need to pay for those first.” At first he kept pretending to be tired and not hear her, but eventually turned back around and brought them to the counter. When she took one of the bars and started scanning it multiple times, he stopped her and told her to scan them each individually “to prevent any electrical infetterence,” and then turned around and winked at me. I don’t even think that’s a word. After she scanned each bar and put them in a bag and started to say the price, he kept interrupting her by yawning really loudly.

[–] buh@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (12 children)

Did my first injection, please clap jeb

The injection itself wasn't that bad, I've always been okay with needles. But drawing was a pain in the ass, I had the needle in there for probably 5-10 minutes, constantly pulling and pushing the plunger back and forth to coax the stuff into the syringe. I even did the thing where you inject air into it, but maybe I didn't do it right. I just hope I didn't damage the vial or contaminate it or something oh-shit

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 18 points 1 week ago (5 children)

thank you for the 1,000 comment birthday megathread :)

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I'm so tired of the doubt... Most of the time it comes by way of other people who are trying in earnest to make sure I'm okay, like my supervisor/mentor today. And it wasn't like denying my identity or anything, just concern that I may be putting femininity on a pedestal and straying a little too far towards self-annihilation instead of self-discovery.

When I talk with people like that who are less affirming the doubt increases and I feel worse. I want it to be true, I want to truly want to be a girl, but what that's just because I'd like an easy way to escape what I currently am?

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[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

TW: medical recovery and pain

spoilerI just got ffs two days ago and Jesus this recovery is painful and psychologically pretty scary. My face looks very fucked up right now, and I’m pretty anxious about how it’s going to turn out. Thank god for Percocet though

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It really feels like the average terfs conception of trans woman is just like…The Rock in a wig.

Meanwhile I’m like…shorter than my wife’s mother and can’t even lift 50 pounds. doggirl-sweat

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

Xia updates:

I'm a trans woman. Not non binary. Not a fruity guy. I told my partner who has been checking in weekly re: pronouns and she were basically like "really took your time there". Told some old friends and it went well. I assume everything is going fine for trans women? I've been out of the loop.

I had a haircut, the shortest in years, but now to my shoulders, looks great, and it's easier to wear down, I still can put it into a neat bun/undercut combo.

Last night I had a dream I was several years into a zombie apocalypse and I met an old work colleague who was at a fortified hospital looking for a cure, she was like "hey by the way, I heard you are woman, congrats" and we hugged as zombies battered on the boarded windows.

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

misogynyTried to pass a random guy on the streets, he stops and stares at me, says hi and straight out asks if we should get married. catgirl-disgust And he's walking with some poor woman who has to try awkwardly laughing it off and tell him that's a bit much.

I was just going to get groceries, but had put a ton of extra effort into my make-up because I felt insecure earlier today. It was not an invitation for guys to hit on me in creepy ways, I just wanted to cheer myself up.

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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

extremely depressedImagine a girlie so fucked up and lonely and starved of care that she has to be cognizant not to accidentally start hitting on the fucking crisis counselor on the crisis hot-line.

It's me, hi, I'm the girlie. Shit like this makes me wonder if I'm just fucked up beyond repair.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

It’s probably for the best not to do that, yeah. headpat

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[–] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

My right tit seems to be growing slightly larger than my left. Not really much of a problem, it's just I seem to be listing right slightly while I sleep.

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

trans rights are moomin rights

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

The way liberal cis women discuss a hypothetical "matriarchal world" reeks of binarist essentialism and cisheteronormative naivety. It really often is just "more female war criminals" shit. When you have people who don't actually understand how systems of oppression work discuss their frustrations with said systems of oppression, they end up inadvertently promoting oppression in the process of these discussions.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

I have a paper due in 1 weeks time. I keep telling myself, FINISH THE FUGGING PAPER THEN YOUR DEGREE IS PRACTICALLY DONE. YOU CAN SPEND THE REMAINING TIME CHILLING AND GIRLIFYING.

But still, the bed is so much warmer than my study desk.

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Going back to older trans megas and seeing -300 comments has me wondering how everyone's doing...

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Playing make believe every night with my plushies, I'm the captain and their my crew but instead of a ship at sea it's a train since I rather not convince myself again I got sea sickness.

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

If i had a nickel for every time i fall for a woman who can give absolutely incredible amounts of affection and care, but struggles to receive and accept being loved due to past trauma, i'd have two nickels. Which isn't much, but it's funny that it happened twice and by funny i mean i wanna strangle the one that did this to her so badly rn.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago

Getting the urge to be more visibly queer actually, if I'm gonna be disappeared in my forsaken country for being too brown amerikkka might as well go out on my own terms catgirl-hiss

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

horny posting AND dysphoria postingoh the absolute utter agony of needing to be fucked in a hole you literally don't have is a pain i would hesitate to wish on my worst enemies

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

You’re telling me an average height girl Friday’d this rice!? doggirl-shock

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

bottom surgery postingFuck, I love having a vagina so much, ya’ll. I ain’t even the type to wear leggings much, but just being able to without anything getting in the way sounds like bliss.

Can’t wait to be able to go on my first run, but that will certainly be a ways off.

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

i might look for some neopronouns to replace he/him... it's not quite right, i think. like the vibes of a man rnt rly what im going for. idk

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

There was a bloke in a kitsuragi-dance jacket at the trans rights protest today. Nothing else to report.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Going out to dinner with wife’s parents.
Didn’t have time to put on makeup; hopefully I’m not too ugly doggirl-sweat

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (11 children)

I am obligated, as a lesbian, to click on this video every time it shows up on my feed

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

I love my wife, Tails. eggman-announcement

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (14 children)

kobeni-dance wearing leggings sicko-fem

kombucha-disgust having to tuck catgirl-disgust

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

My wife is judging how much moisturizer I use madeline-bruh

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)
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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Who keeps the cisgender down?

While we are beeping around?

WE DOOOOOOOOOO, WE DOOOOOOOOO

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

feeling weird about sexuality tbh

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