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WEBRINGS:
Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades 
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
positivity
can't believe how much better i'm doing, mentally speaking, than my lowest point a few years ago
still getting anxiety attacks and dealing with depression but nothing that's keeping me stuck inside any more.
gotta give it up to my gf, idk if i'd have made this much progress without her
Need to bring the Soviet Union back so we have trans people well trained in dialectical materialist thinking. 
I work 60 hours a week, it's too fucking much. This is only sustainable because I don't have pets, nevermind children, and I refuse to have an irl social life (I ain't missing much in this town, it's a whole thing don't worry about it). It's not even sustainable, I'm only doing this for 12 more months
kind of curious if the timeline of baby trans to trans elder is more influenced by time spent transitioning, hitting transition goals, or both 
cw : bedroom stuff
so, yeah, there's still tweaking to do w/ the injections, BUT it's been fucking years since sex felt this good. like, i actually want to be doing it, but i'm also not having a hypersexual phase. which is nice, can get rly exhausting. but yeah, i was thinking about how in like, my mid-20's sex was still enjoyable w/ the right partner & then at some point it just kinda stopped being a thing in my brain. there's Trauma™ there, for sure, but i knew something else was up, too, when it wasn't really happening w/ my partner cuz like, this is the comfiest i've ever been w/ another person. baby steps, basically; i'm just taking it as a nice, fun bonding thing for now. the kinky stuff will have to wait a bit more still.
This might be just a me thing, anyone else not celebrate their birthday? Never have when it was up to me and I always felt uncomfortable even when I was a toddler
i just got divorced
the breakup was ages ago and friendly, but the divorce took so long to process. now i can marry my partner 
i miss working in a restaurant kinda sometimes, my food bill was so low because i ate two of my three meals a day at work lol. but also don't miss the 14 hour days and constant stress lmao
i do miss the opportunity to experiment with food on someone else's budget for sure though. wish i'd made copies of all the recipes though, there were some good ones. at least i still have my desserts written somewhere
i hate insurance so much/surgery
Was just given a final ‘decision’ after multiple appeals and meetings with a lawyer that I have to pay for my ffs out of pocket.
I specifically paid to get on a decent insurance plan while planning out this surgery and it turns out that due to opaque laws, they have an exclusion for all “transsexual care” in my plan. I will still be getting the surgery(in two months!) but this just made me so sad to see that this is still commonly the state of care for us.
Unlimited genocide on the cis. 
Hello all!!! I hope everyone is having a good week and will have a good week. Much love 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️✊✊✊🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Gonna ask my aro/ace bestie if she wants to try a queerplatonic relationship
I can't really classify my feelings as either romantic or platonic anymore and I'm hoping they're on the same page. 
went into the trans sports thread and remembered why i just walk away when cis people start talking about that shit
I am walking away from the anti-vegan debate weirdo. The anti-vegan debate weirdo has no power over me. Choosing to walk away does not mean I forfeit victory to their weird anti-vegan debate.
Me talking to one of my cis guy friends:
Me: i have been feeling sad lately
Him: are you feeling hormonal?
Me: i will fucking kill you
He meant it earnestly💀💀💀
Unlimited murder on the cis
I lived as a transwoman from ~2020-2022 and then detransitioned out of my own volition. My family and friends were supportive, it just didn't feel quite right. Living as a trans woman felt the same as a cis man, except it took a lot more effort to present female than male (especially since I'm quite tall), so I went back to being a cishet guy.
But I'd be lying if I said I'm 100% confident in my gender identity. I don't think I'll ever transition again, but maybe I'll try drag at some point.
My parents brought up the recent Olympics stuff. BUT IT WAS GOOD OMG?! They thought she had xy and still thought transphobes were being ridiculous, removed some people for sharing their bigotries. Also pointed out the media story changing. Super comforting. Was worried about how they'd react to the story, obviously.
Edit: just have been thinking about coming out a lot and this makes me feel more confident in it going well.
just cooked scrambled tofu and toast while listening to music loudly :>
gang... this will be my last post from this account... lemmygrad is silencing me for my comedic jokes and love of laughter but also because i said the b word by existing...
i'll see you all on the other side as @gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net
Watching an old mid-60s campus building get demolished by four excavators while listening to boards of canada. 
because I like mid 60s-late 70s modernism too much but also 
because fitting music (I’ve been staring at the whole process for ten minutes)
I'm not like the other autistic trans femmes, I'm somehow not a furry
sitting on the ground outside of my job rn. it's overcast and breezy. it's been a really tough day for bottom dysphoria today, but this is helping me calm down a bit
one more hour and I can go home ✊😔
I changed my name on all of the apps I use to order lunch to my girl name. Now when I pick up my lunch, I get a little side of gender euphoria to go with it. :
watching hasan yell at the transphobes in his chat when discussing this olympic trans panic bs reminds me that i'm definitely 
spoiler I'm sorry for flooding the mega with all this gay sex stuff. I can stop if you want. I just like gathering my thoughts here and replies are good Idk. I love you trans mega.
This whole, "being emotionally present and involved in sex" bit, it's kinda hard and kinda sucks. Nobody warned me about this!!!even more weirder sex posting, cw trauma discussion again
Without getting into the gritty stuff, a recent volcel violation ended up not going that well, nothing serious just minor communication flubs, bit of old emotions, stuff. I completely and utterly flipped my shit though, I was like 200% mad, agitated and wanting to be alone and suffering a lot 
Partly I think it's because it reminded me of every single post-sex with my ex, which always sucked and left me feeling gross and ashamed and shit. I do not ever want to be in that space again. I think I was also just utterly galled that I've put so much time and work into getting through all this stuff and being clear on what I want, and things STILL did not fucking work out! How fucking dare!! I don't fucking wanna have bad sex again goddamnit 
I fucking quit!!!
As wifey says, you cannot expect literally all sex to be great and go well, which makes sense. Sometimes stuff is just gonna not work. But it proves that I was right to not instantly throw myself back into it and try something super kinky or whatever; I do in fact need to take it slow, because Idk, this is the first time in my entire life that I am in my body the way I want to be, sexually, so stuff is gonna come up like this. There will probably be more instances of past baggage rearing their head as I move forward with this. Just have to take it easy.
...I really wish I had better emotional regulation, god I'm such a fucking loser when it comes to flipping out 
:::
My mom told me I've got a more feminine figure now! 
dysphoria, negative thoughts
But then later she showed me this youtuber who's also a trans woman and almost as old as me, but she was able to figure out she was trans very early on, and got on puberty blockers before moving on to hrt when she was a teenager. Aaand now I feel like shit again 
Sorry I keep posting about this.
(cw Dysphoria)
Okay I'm feeling way worse than I thought, I want to just curl up in a ball on my bed and cry once I get home but I still have tutoring to do so I can't for another 3.5 hours at least.
I hate that just a bit of facial hair being worse than normal can make me spiral like this. Especially when I was and should be feeling great right now. But instead it's infecting how I feel about myself in general, I can't see the woman I normally do when I look in a reflection, I look at photos that I usually love and feel disgusted about my jaw and other features, and the nails I painted to feel a bit better during work are just making me feel worse.
i'm gonna speak for everyone here as well as trans people in general and declare war on the general and news megathreads. it doesn't matter what happens in the world, you will never beat us
Last night I smonked so much weed that I got a flood of memories of times that I felt or did something awkward, but with my newfound wisdom 
I instantly recognized almost all of them as times I felt gender dysphoria
whats wild is we were making about 500 comments per day in the last 2 weeks or so. now we're at 400 comments per day but are getting thousands per day in the matrix
you people are hyper as fuck 
I love this lil ghost
stop thinking about painful old egg emotions from high school CHALLENGE: LEVEL: IMPOSSIBLE
*clap claps* Good girls! Line up for your praise and a quick peck on the cheek!
sappy posting
I am so lucky to have found hexbear and this comm. Who knows how much longer I would have been lost for. I can't thank you all enough for the support and inspiration, I am so excited I get to be a girl. I've been girlvibing all day
ALSO if you have not joined the matrix server you should, amazing.
Flexed my arms in the mirror and realized my biceps are basically gone and I have squishy noodle arms now. First physical change in my transition I've had conflicting feelings about, but I think I mostly like it?
pro tips: if you see someone with "t4t" on their dating profile, this means they are looking for people to play Team FourTress Two with
i wish i was a wife haver
My laundry basket has been full for months and just functions as storage for boy clothes I don't use aymore, while my actual laundry is just stored on my bedroom floor. I should probably do something about this.
Feeling legitimate is the best thing ever 
Thank you all for helping me feel this way.
medical fears
can't tell if part of my subq needle snapped off when I was doing my injection or not. 
made the most important step of transitioning today: officially changing my name for the customer rewards program at my local games shop
