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272 new comments, some removed, two people talking about leaving
/tttt/ brain worms from the sounds of it. Not diagnosing, it's what those users were attributing it to
I used to be 19 and stupid, ah memories
Now I'm 3_ (don't worry about it, I'm old enough to be your mother) and I'm still stupid
evil sex thought
Cishet people just have a straight fetish. I mean you say your sex is VANILLA, Cisgender Man sir, but really you have a kink for being a big strong man with a fat dong and boinking submissive stereotypically attractive women, huh? You have a guy-kink. You're doing a performance, playing a role, it is a FETISH, sir. It's a sexualisation of your gender. Bro is autoandrophilic basically. Guy gets off on having sex as a man!!! His assigned gender!!!!!
My brain is so rotted, I was thinkin about how Actually at least many cis people be making their gender a big part of their sex life, which is wild. It also made me realise, I kind of don't. I think one of the reasons I was so uncomfortable with my ex is because she was huuuuuuge into making sex very very fucking gendered... I couldn't get down with calling it a "princess hole", wasn't for me.
I guess, further than that, I was kinda uncomfortable with being gendered during sex generally? I mean, say I'm a good girl sure, but that's actually about it. The idea of inhabiting "the role" of a woman felt weird to me. Feels weird. The Truth Of My Body Is Self-Evident; I've No Need To Involve My Gender Presentation In Sex. I'm more comfortable just being people, I guess. Maybe I wouldn't be against my partner bringing gender into the sex equation? But if so we would need to discuss that first, I guess. How much it's expected to play in.
Yes reading Gender Outlaw and then The Gender Accelerationist Manifesto has completely rotted my brain.
Hey you lovely people
Does anyone know of a good place (read: not amazon) to get a binder on terf island?
Some super basic info about binders would also be helpful since this would be my partner's first
Thank you!
The good:
I took a picture of myself last week and it didn't make me feel completely terrible.
I'm gonna be starting voice training again.
The bad:
The meh:
I have never felt as trans and happy about it as I am right now. I am excited to transition, on my pace.
generational shame and dysphoria
I mentioned this already in other comments over the weekend, but my once favorite living aunt, spewed the family shame all over my FB comment when I asked friends and family to use my chosen name. Which pulled a lot of old shit from my grandma to the surface and has left me feeling disassociated and dysphoric. I went out Saturday night and had a wonderful time. But since then, it seems like Saturday happened to someone else.
I see my therapist this morning. But I feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Self-care feels like something I should do instead of something I want to do. And I feel ashamed for being cranky with my girlfriend the last two days.
biden dropped out to give news mega the boost it needs to overtake our big beautiful trans posting 
transphobic gatekeeping
sometimes I think about how insane it is that i can't even legally buy estrogen with my own money because i haven't spent time justifying my transness to some fucking clueless cis nerd doctor and I just sit in my room and seethe like a volcano. Thank fuck for grey market suppliers and trans solidarity, literally life-saving.
The more I explore my gender, the worse the dysphoria gets.
It's like climbing a rose bush to get the rose. It was one thing to admire it from afar, but the higher I get, the harder I have to grip the thorns.
blahaj drama going stupid rn
I'm out tho, I can't do stupid Internet drama anymore so i left with a deez nuts joke
long live hexbear
starting a new stardew farm tonight and that is exciting 
but first to survive two more hours of work
Being into stuff that cis men oversaturate fucking sucks, like I'll go look at stuff I nerd out about in a forum and they're making shitty right wing jokes under a picture of a 2004 Ford Taurus
before transitioning, if I wanted to look at boobs, I had to go to www.internet.com and look up "boobs" if I wanted to see boobs
now all I have to do to look at boobs is look down! this is great!
I want to at least try prog but I really don't know how I'll get my hands on it in my shitty country 
Estrogen has been super easy to get via grey market sources but progesterone seems more prolematic
got my 1 year on hormones bloodwork back today and my levels are GREAT. We love to see it, folks. 
I hate hunting for a place to rent. I hate that I can't just force myself to be comfortable in a place with men since it'd be so much easier to find one if I did. I wish I could actually fucking afford a bachelor. I wish I didn't get fucking ghosted 90% of the time I mention I'm trans.
I've honestly been feeling really good lately, I can finally just go to the store and buy hormones without having to wait a month to get the bare minimum. I think I passed well enough at work too without all the makeup, goddamn kitchen work and disallowing everything cute, and if that is possible for my 6ft tall, wide af shouldered ass then everything is definitely possible 
cw: suicidal ideation
havent been feeling suicidal for 6 months now! i think that's a new record since my puberty started.
i'm getting kinda anxious since things are going TOO well recently, shit is bound to hit the fan again soon
600 more comments than the news mega.
Like Christ you crucified me, but in doing so I am your savior. 
waking up at 4 am 😒
I’m glad my parents weren’t super strict about gender-specific toys growing up. I had dinosaurs, my little pony plushies, pink dragons, transformers, and superhero action figures.
Meanwhile one of my brothers says that his son will grow up to be a wimp because he doesn’t play with trucks and prefers baby dolls.
So! Anyone here self-medicating? (a.k.a. "DIY HRT") - I'm a moderater over on r/estrogel, I'd love to get in touch. Anyone here wanting to self-medicate, but have no idea how? Lets talk
Summer is making me feel like I am always sweating and have light girlstink. 
Should I switch to body wash instead of soap?
Would that help?
I just realized the last time trans women in sports gained this much attention was during the Cold War when NATO countries would constantly whine about how the Soviet Bloc would be entering “biological men” to compete. The accused were mostly intersex but that didn’t stop them from being transphobic.
How do I know if im gay?
cw sex
I hooked up with a cis man for the first time since starting to transition. It's fair to say that he was a chaser lol, but kind of the best possible one. Like he's openly dated trans women previously, and he happily took me out in public before we did anything else (and paid even!). He wasn't excessively pushy and listened when i said I didn't want to do certain things. He was a bit older than me, but an objectively an attractive, athletic guy. Also he was very concerned with my pleasure when we actually fucked later on.
But, like, im not sure that enjoyed it very much. Like idk im not sure if i was actually attracted to him or really liked what we were doing. I think my favorite parts were cuddling before and talking after.
I've definitely been with other trans girls and not felt that way. Like I very much enjoyed the sex, and was extremely attracted to them.
Uh so maybe it was a sort of bad hookup but maybe Im a lesbian?
i love that even the former president getting blasted at didn't have enough staying power to surpass us
2 days until I have my appointment to start HRT. Then another 12 days until I can actually start. Is it okay to count the days here? Is that weird? I’m counting them in my head and it’s driving me nuts.
I'm on 2 mg of oral estradiol in the morning and 2 mg in the evening and my estradiol levels have gone from 146 pg/mL last year to 82 pg/mL six months ago to 71 pg/mL yesterday. I don't even have balls. 
We're increasing the dose to thrice daily and I'm gonna switch to injections in three months. Wtf tho.
Dear transfemmes,
What's it like not having to shave anymore? Do you even think about it anymore? Is it great?
I've never loved shaving, but recently it's become very emotionally difficult for me. Please give me something to look forward to
i have to go to bed. i'll be closer to kissing girls tomorrow
wifeposting (I'm a wifeguy) (but a dyke enby)
Rewifing from last thread, last night I cut my wifey's hair into a little chin length bob, which is adorable, she looks great. The way you can tell that I have Fake Autism and she has Real Organic Autism is she prefers her hair shorter (equally for style and utility/sensory reasons) whereas I just grew mine way out and it's annoying.
The first time we tried having me cut her hair, it went atrociously because I freaked out worrying I had cut it too short. (And it did end up very short) This time it apparently went pretty well, we pinned a towel around her shoulders and I just went at it. My knuckles are knobbly so I have trouble keeping hair between my fingers, but she seems very satisfied with the cut, even if it was a bit uneven and needed some revisions. I erred toward cutting not-enough over too-much.
Should do more "girls' night"-y stuff like that I guess, hanging out styling our hair or painting nails or whatever kind of rocks. Both intimate and relaxing. Thank fuck I'm not a man or I would be the most ANNOYING WIFEGUY 
I might be developing a fear of men.
cw: assault
I keep having nightmares were some strange man I don’t know wants to do things to me and they are too strong for me to overpower them.
I'm so tired, WHY did my brain decide that it was a good idea to just not sleep?
sad posting family stuff
I guess my mother's initial reaction to me being trans was more shock than anything. She initially seemed to take the news really well and was supportive. But I guess she's been struggling with it ever since. I called her yesterday and she told me how upset she's been all week. She's been grieving the death of her son she said, among other things.
She still wants to be a part of my life though , so I imagine that she'll get over this in time. I hope so. The only other people from my family I care about are my dad and grandma. I haven't told them yet, but I don't think either of them will take the news well at all. And I don't think they will ever accept me. But if that's what they choose then that's their choice.
This just has me feeling all blah today.
Grrr..
Scrolling the news mega I got caught up and made a comment.
So I'm putting this one here to make up for it.
Me, sitting here anxious about going to the store and buying a bracelet and plushy 
Trans people in history transitioning with literally no community or medical care 